How to Deal with Difficult People

By Blake Cahoon
From the Archives
 
We all have them – those people who bug us, who we complain about, who frustrate us.
People can play massive mind games with us.  When we are polite, we call them ‘difficult’; when we aren’t polite we call them much worse.
 
None the less they can hamper us, hinder us and even make us sick when we let them get to us too much.  They may be our siblings, our spouses, our co-workers, our bosses or the people at the DMV.
 
How do you deal with these people?  Ignore them?  Lose sleep?  Get a stomach ache?  Disown them?  Quit your job?
 
Once upon a time, I too had a situation (among many—but this was the one that turned it around for me) – where someone was being very difficult in a project at corporate world work that was creating great issues for the project’s completion.
 
One day I came home frustrated and angry beyond belief.  My Divine Guidance Team is always with me and they certainly were that day.  I came home mad as a wet cat. (Normally cats don’t like water and a wet cat is an angry full-clawed hissing type creature you don’t want to be near!).
 
I came home and was cussing up a blue streak (yes, I do occasionally do this – it lets off steam!).
My Team inquired what was wrong in a rather calm fashion, as they are warranted to do.  One particular Team member, Master Yeshua, was the front-runner spokesperson that day.  I told him in no uncertain terms what was wrong, throwing my purse to the floor and stomping my feet as a child in a tantrum would do.
 
I finally said to him, “What should I do about this situation?”  His answer came unexpectedly. 
 
“Bless him,” he said.
 
“What!??!!”  I yelled back (it was cool to do so – he’s used to it).  “I can’t bless him!!” I yelled and went on for another fifteen minute rant and rave.  Finally I let him speak again and again he answered,
 
“Bless him.” 
 
At this point I knew for certain I was channeling an Ascended Master, for I would never in my current state of mind come up with this incessant, peacefully, spoken answer.
 
I went into another fit of anger, but I was winding down.  It only lasted five minutes.
 
“Are you through?” he finally asked as I collapsed into a near-by chair. 
 
“Yes,” I said, exhausted. 
 
“Then you must dig deep down inside yourself and bless this person,” Master Yeshua stated.  “For in doing so you will dissolve the block that is holding you from your solution.”
 
I pondered this for a moment.  “Do I have to?” I whined.  I can be stubborn when I want to.
 
“Do you wish to solve your issue with this individual?”
 
“Yes,” I said.
 
“Then you must bless him,” came the answer again.
 
And so with this answer at hand, I ponder the Master’s answer. 
 
The next day, I had a meeting with the difficult person, along with the rest of the work team.  They too were fed up with the situation and were borderline difficult themselves.  The situation had been a toll on all of us.
 
As the project manager droned on about timelines and duties, I focused on Mr. Difficult.  I looked around the table.  And I looked towards the ceiling (heavenwards) and silently, to myself, I said,
 
“Dear Angels, God, Master Yeshua and the rest of the Team, Please let me see this situation with new eyes and an open heart.  Let me heal myself and the others.  Let the bridge of knowledge between us flow openly. Let understanding flow between all parties and let there be peace among the team.  Thank you, thank you, thank you.”
 
Then I dug deep into myself (and deep is an understatement) and had to find all that peace, understanding and even love among fellow team mates.  I finally found that sweet spot and sent out waves of beautiful white light, love and blessings to all, especially Mr. Difficult. 
 
I blessed them all and asked the angels and Team to bless them all, especially Mr. Difficult.
 
Then I sat and waited. 
 
I didn’t have to wait long – in less than 20 minutes, if that, the situation began turning around.  I expressed myself in the meeting not with frustration, but with renew understanding and sympathy.  Especially of Mr. Difficult, who turned out didn’t have a clue of what was being asked of him.  We helped him with this process going forward.
 
The dam was broken and the project progress started to flow again after weeks of backup.
 
Mr. Difficult became Mr. Cooperative.  The project, while it still had its bumps, preceded and finally finished only one week late. 
 
I am convinced it was because I did as Master Yeshua instructed: I blessed the situation and the people involved. 
 
I am also convinced that anyone can take this method and use it to their advantage.  For I have done so a number of times since then with positive results.
 
The next time you have a difficult situation, stop and dig deep (this may take some doing) and bless the person.   
 
Many ask: “What would Jesus do?” when dealing with difficult people.  I know the answer: Bless them.
 
(Master Yeshua is also known as Jesus Christ.)
Many Blessings!
Blake Cahoon and the Divine Guidance Team
​The Angelic Path
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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